I understand how hard it can be to find confidence in yourself. As women we are often taught to put others’ needs before our own. In fact, most of the time we’re taught to not even consider that we have needs. This leaves us in a tough spot when we get older because some of us go on to get married, have children, or get into communities we have deep relationships with. The catch is: how deep can these relationships go if we feel like we are the ones doing all the work? This isn’t the other people’s fault! They don’t know that our go-to strategy is to constantly focus on meeting their needs. But it still leaves a hole. We might get fulfillment from seeing our loved one so happy their need is filled, but eventually that wears on you.

You can’t meet everyone’s needs all the time. You deserve to find your own joy too. I want to help you find the confidence to say: my needs matter too.

I know for myself that I learned to consider everyone else’s needs above my own and that was going to keep me in relationship with other people. As I grew up (and went to therapy), I realized that this feels like a false way of living. How can I be in close relationships with people without being seen/known myself? Constantly meeting other people’s needs made me feel good but also insecure. Wondering, what if I can’t always meet their needs? Will they leave?

In my own therapy I found freedom and confidence in the fact that what I bring to relationships is more than what I do, and I want to help you realize that too. This is why I’ve worked with many women over the years who struggle with people-pleasing and feeling out-of-tune with themselves, so they can gain confidence, find purpose, and lead a fulfilling life. I achieve this by combining the use of my years of experience working with these specific women and using an attachment-based approach to provide a safe, nurturing environment that leads to healing, self-acceptance, and skills to know themselves and their needs better.